Now Separated. Am I doing the right things?

[Denver_2010]

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! My kids are with W today so I am spending the day with my mom. It's a really hard day.

I have a question that’s come up on this forum quite a bit. I am expecting to receive the divorce papers any day now. I don’t have much money so I doubt I will be getting a lawyer. She's printing the papers on her own so I don't think she's received much council. We don’t have many assets and everything she’s initially outlined seems fair. Do most papers usually have a “respond by date?”

I would expect that there is a deadline to respond. However, if they are not 'served' on you by a process server, it is very unlikely that it is valid service. If she just hands them to you, leaves them for you, or mails them to you, you can hold onto them for as long as you like.

Is it a good idea for me to stall as long as possible?

It depends Rough. Stalling helped for me. It p!ssed W off at the time, but it delayed the D or legal S long enough for me to get her to begin to reconsider.

My advice is always to stall as long as you can. You cooperate, but you don't help. That's my opinion on it. Others differ.

Happy Thanksgiving. I know how hard this day can be under these circumstances. You are not alone. I wish that there were more that I could say to make you feel better.

Denver