Welcome to catch-22

[Big Bruce]

All your posts are so eye opening. I don't regret visiting this site !

Well, my son was small when W and him moved to here. I missed his first steps, I missed his first word, because I was in other country for 7 months, all of this because I allowed my wife to go ahead and move before me, to help her catch the school year.
I was nice to her, and bam! this is the thank you I get.

And now, I keep missing his first sentence, his first questions, his baths, his food tantrums and his little laughter. I miss him totally, the good and the bad.
I don't want to get back at her, but tell me how is it fair that she has the nerve to ask for 100% custody?
I love my son the same, if not more than her!

So no, he's not a bargaining chip, but LITB is right, he is non negociable. I will ask tonight (my visit day) whether she would be open to discuss more cutody for me, but because she already filed to have 100% of it, the answer is going to be no. (Remember, we haven't sat yet to talk since I arrived 5 months ago! She refuses everything). Therefore I intend to proceed with the counter petition with the lawyer, and ask for my 50% custody, asap.

Not a move out of anger or anything, I will calmly explain that I love him, and that what's separation brings. Her choice after all.