wife wants her space, doesnt know who she is

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Yes I would agree it is very hard to detach when we see eachother so often, what would you recommend? As far as me detaching... I would say no I havnt... Still working on how to do it. Its like I'm addicted to her!

You detach by GAL. You need to have interests and hobbies outside of your W. It's not healthy for you to be so dependent on her. That's a lot of pressure on her and she doesn't want that.

She says she's a better mom when I'm not around because its like she is instantly irritated at EVERYTHING when I'm around. So any little thing anyone does she over reacts. And she says she isn't a good mom when she is snapping at the kids. And she says she is happier because right when she walks through the door she has this pissed off demeanor... I may not even say a word but for some reason she has this rudeness toward me.

There has to be a reason WHY she is instantly irritated when you are around. There must be something you did or maybe didn't do to cause her to feel this way. I have a feeling and correct me if I'm wrong it has to do with your lack of a job and your pot smoking. Did she come home from work and find you playing XBox or Playstation half baked out of your mind? If so there's your answer. I have to ask this because if it's true it may not be a big deal to you but it is for her.

As far as legal seperation she says she wants to go that route because right now she wants the space to make sure she wants the divorce, (I wish it were so she could work on herself, and WORK on the marriage). I'm not sure what legal seperation intells I may do some reading today on it.

Ok that is not the end of the world. Legal separation is to benefit both of you. You sit down and write up an agreement as to the terms of your separation. What you wish and what she wants right now are two different things. Don't focus on her right now. Focus on you becoming a man only a fool would leave.

As far as what I want to work on is GAL, I have very little friends and money so it is a little difficult but once I figure it out I think I'll be good.

As far as the job I got a call last night saying they are reconsidering because of some mishaps I got into when I was 17

Any job would be owning my own autobody business and selling cars on the side. (That what my parents did before they retired) [/quote]

Sorry to hear about the job. I suggest you get a CDL and get a job truck driving for now. It's better than nothing.