Living in the Gray

[labug]

I have always communicated with him about sons stuff. And when I've communicated in the past it's been much like you describe, here's what's going on (and usually it is S19). S19 tends to tell everyone he's "fine" when he really isn't.

But I guess that's really something they need to work out and what I'm doing is more likely looking for connection and support that I'm not going to get even as a co-parent to a kid who still needs active parenting.

Melissa, living in the extremes of black or white takes away a lot of life as very few things are always or never. If something isn't good it doesn't mean it's bad, if I'm not perfect, it doesn't mean I'm awful. Learning to live in the gray, or staying away from extremes is actually healthy for me.

Thanks for helping me think this through.