A DB goal is what you want to Achieve, not the steps it takes to get there. You very often have to break those into smaller goals.
You determine the steps to try after deciding what you want.
Lisa - there is no judgment here. You deserve to be happy. If you decide you want to try to win him back, that's fine. If you decide you've had enough, that's fine. If you want something in-between, that's ok too. We are here to support you in what YOU want.
If he is behaving poorly, it is not a reflection on you. It doesn't mean you are doing anything wrong.
