Bug- Although mine are younger I do let H know. I'm sorry you still feel concerned about being rejected. Could that be why you haven't communicated in the past about them?
Generally I just spit out what I need to say to him. This came up with S14 when he had the major meltdown. I just said - look we need to talk about S14. This is the deal - this is what I think is going on - this is what IC said - and it would be great if you could also reach out to him and show support. Then I left it there. No other words. Just a sort of matter of fact unemotional unemotional relating of the facts as best I could.
Happy Thanksgiving. I am thankful for you and the others here on this board. You provide insight, guidance, and challenge me on my bad behaviors. In essence, this community is making better people.
Perhaps it is part of the gray. I dunno. I would actually say in the white I think. It's just doing what is right for your son. No matter what happens between us and our H our kids can never have too much love and support.
