Welcome to catch-22

[Grateful]

So maybe, like you said, sometimes it takes something big to open someone's eyes. Maybe having to give up 50% of the time our son to me, will make my W reflect upon what she is doing. Maybe it's her turn to suffer a little, because until now, she didn't show any remorse, sadness or pain about dumping me.
I hope her heart doesn't harden though.

And forgive me for the choice of words about my son. It's just that since he was born, my W concentrated all her emotions, time and affection on him, to the point of deciding to D, because she doesn't need me anymore!
You understand the dynamic underlying all this here?

I am not trying to be harsh, as I have had similar feelings with other things. But it appears that you may be using S as an "I'll show her thing." If I am wrong, then I am sorry. It just appears that way. Your S needs a strong father that will love and be there for him regardless of the outcome. We men tend to get angry when we don't get what we want. I know I do.