Welcome to catch-22

[Big Bruce]

I don't know what to say.
Thhings look out worse now, and her behaviour surprises me even further. I guess it's called the "gloves off" stage.

And yes, apart from the two first months of pleading, ILYs and writing desperate letters, I have given her space, been polite, agreed to the numbers of visits, length and place, you couldn't find a more agree-able person than me in North America. 5 months of changed, near-perfect behaviour.

So maybe, like you said, sometimes it takes something big to open someone's eyes. Maybe having to give up 50% of the time our son to me, will make my W reflect upon what she is doing. Maybe it's her turn to suffer a little, because until now, she didn't show any remorse, sadness or pain about dumping me.
I hope her heart doesn't harden though.

And forgive me for the choice of words about my son. It's just that since he was born, my W concentrated all her emotions, time and affection on him, to the point of deciding to D, because she doesn't need me anymore!
You understand the dynamic underlying all this here?