We need a better attitude around here.

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I think I am detached at times and I do truly feel positive and feel like I am living good. I laugh, am happy and enjoy my GAL.

Its three things really for me:

1. I think I have detached, and then a thought floats in, a memory or a pang of sadness stemming from something i saw, smelt, ate or felt, and I realize maybe I am not yet detached. And then I remember it happens in layers. And I force myself to change my thoughts.

2. We have two young kids. I see him whenever he is town as he comes to see the kids. I am still finding a balance between being detached and being cold when I am around him. I try to treat him friendly, whether or not he is receptive. He is in my house, so I should treat him as I would any other visitor in my house.

3. Is detached not caring at all about our WAS? To a certain extent I can understand if we didn't have kids how becoming detached may look different. But I do struggle with it.

Thanks for starting this thread. There is nothing more I want than to not feel like this anymore. At first I thought if H just came back then all would be fine. Of course now I know better and I am doing better. But yes, would still like to detach more.

DLS-I do enjoy life. I do socialize and talk on the phone lol And I do BELIEVE I am going to be ok no matter what.

Thanks for starting this thread.