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Woah.

First, " time with the toddler". Should not be a tactic. You file for that time because you want it. Because you are " the toddlers father. (the toddler really is not a great way to refer to your son.). It shouldn't matter if it brings your w closer or drives her farther away. Never use your child as a game piece.

Stupid education account? It's your son's education. All the toys you want take a back seat when you have a child. You need to prioritize.

Your W did not leave you for " punishment". There is proportionality.

Saying you are going to make changes isn't going to bring your W back. Making them for a week isn't going to bring her back. She doesn't want to reenter a marriage where the changes aren't going to be permanent. She needs to see these changes are real over time.

Not to be mean, but I wonder if you really know what is involved in an M, what kind of commitment, changes and compromise it takes. What makes a long lasting M. You are not just dating anymore. You are a married man with a child. Time to put your big boy pants on. Not to win your wife back, but to make some positive life changes.

I think perhaps focusing on your son and being a father instead of focusing on your wife so much would help. 50/50 custody may for a single parent who wasn't all that involved is a huge responsibility and undertaking. Perhaps fostering an R with your S as a parent will be the best thing you can do for anyone right now.

It's going to be more than playing with your S. it's going to be raising him to be a man. So you need to keep in mind you are always a role model for him and your R is very very important.

I agree with this post here. Hopefully, you were talking out of anger when you used the words you did about your S and so on. The only thing that I am thankful for in my sitch is the fact that I get to be with the kids 3 days a week. My W agrees that BOTH of us have to be involved in their lives. Not to just be a playdate, but a father.