I watched the videos and have started pulling away, but I am having a hard time because I want her to know I love her.
Oh she knows. Quit telling her. If you haven't gotten the books yet, read the DB 180's sticky thread at the top of this forum. It's basically an overview of what to do and how to act. No "I love you". No R talks. No following her around the house like a puppy. No pursuit at all. Work on yourself. Show your W a happy you no matter what. Act "as if" everything is great even when you're hurting inside.
[quote]She has given us until mid January.
Ignore her time line, it's meaningless. She will change her mind 10 times between now and then. She will decide to leave sooner, then not at all, then later, then who knows. Concentrate on DB'ing. Take everything she says with a grain of salt.
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She started saying she loved me a few days ago, then today her mid-life crisis took over again.
Like I said.
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She wants to meet BSDM people, travel and sleep with lots of people.
Ummm, what? Seriously? Wow, she needs to be in IC. If that's her version of "finding herself" then all she's going to really find are some unwanted diseases.
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I'm back to square one again. I hate this, things start improving then WHAM I get knocked to the ground.
They don't call it the roller coaster for nothing. It's a crazy ride. DB'ing will help you detach and get off the ride.
