He's Just Not That Into You

[RegretfulLA]

This isn't about you telling him what is right or wrong, it's about asking him what he thinks and continually peeling the onion to find out what he thinks, and maybe, get him to challenge his own beliefs.

Agree - this is the place we need to get to. Since our MC doesn't seem very proactive, I'm going to have to take this on. One of my closest friends is a therapist and she's told me what is *supposed* to be happening in MC. I think H's IC is probably also very passive, which is why she recommended this MC. H does not like to be challenged, so it all makes a lot of sense, but I know it's not what we need in order to move forward.

Anyway - trying not to dwell on any of this. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday. I go all out with the china and silver and everything, and I cook up a storm. I've already made 2 pies, cranberry sauce, candied yams and am just about to brine the turkey. I am in a happy mood and intend to stay that way! Happy Thanksgiving all!!