I was able to stop this (the physical affair) from happening, but she feels trapped in the marriage.
Terry, I'm so sorry to hear the tough situation you are in. Your W sounds pretty desperate to fulfill her fantasies. Trying to stop her will not work, and only leaves her feeling trapped as you have found. It probably even makes her want the outside sex MORE.
You have to let go of her and take care of yourself and your daughter. Wife certainly is in no shape to do this, so that leaves you. She may come back, she may not, and you need to move forward accepting this fact.
Have you read any of the DR or DB yet? Be patient, things will get better.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
