Wow! Thanks! lol I might have backslid. Not sure I consider it a backslide actually because I was angry not at first but I kind of don't care.

What happened.....coming through town and I saw H and OW leaving the ATM in her car (which btw is destroyed. I didn't notice before but not nice. He is in passenger seat, she driving) So they pull out behind me. Then slow way way down. I turned into the gas station and they went past. Kids saw H though.

So I sent text. -- I want the van since you aren't driving it. (it's a dodge caravan- paid off) He responds -- NO. My responses: Why? It's mine too and I have needed it several times. You have other options. And you call me vindictive ........
His response: Give me the car - (I have a chevy aveo hatchback. Tiny car.All 5 of us are riding in it currently. It is a joint loan but really my car and I make the payments) My response: Sure if you can pay for it! I need to call and have myself removed from the loan. You DO have a motorcycle and the Suzuki. You can't pay for anything right now and we both know it. Also the bank and Honda have both been calling here. Should I give them your new address? Additionally there is $95 on my electric bill that is yours (when OW and H hooked up and moved in they had the audacity to tack their electric on my bill. Yes, really. Basically, I told them get it off or I cut you off. They did move it but still I am stuck with that actually with late fee and taxes now it is $106 something)
He responds- The suzuki dont run and i cant aford to fix it i need the van. (I actually bought all the parts for it and new tires but it is still sitting)
I responded- You don't even drive it and you know it. And you stole my stupid lid to my coffee cup and my damn skillets. You stole all kinds of things which meant nothing to you. You are just being spiteful about all of it. (this is true and how I feel there are a bunch of things he took that were mine. I know this is stupid some of the things but I really felt sort of violated. He used to come over to watch the kids and come to find out he WAS taking my things)
He responds- Yes I drive it daily your not leaving me walking. You need to get over yourself!
Me- You left. I didn't leave you any way. Your choices were just that. Yours.
Him- Goodbye
Me - (now fairly angry) Stay classy.

So then we had come home and gotten my S14 and were taking D's to bb practice and sitting at stop sign. It is like a T. who should come by? Them in my van. He starts running his mouth and making gestures. SHe was too. Acting like trash. Really. Making masturbation gestures and the bird and stuff. He had his face all contorted obviously in a rage. Of course - Kids in car watching the whole time.

We turn and go on I said I can't believe that. I hate to say it one D says well she is just an ugly fat slob isn't she? So then I got super pissed and fired off a text.
Me- She like riding in the car you bought for me and OUR kids? She will never be me even though she seems to want my life. (which he did buy the van for me. Went picked it out and came home with it pretty as a peacock literally 4 years ago almost to the day so I could go visit my family in Ohio for the holidays because my previous van had died)
another text from me- (Can you tell I was furious?) Or listening to the iPod I bought ( he is never without it in the car engraved and completely loaded) The clothes I picked out. Even my dishes???? Girls said she what a fat slob. Course you always liked that.

How bad is that of me? Don't answer. I know. I see the hatred and venom. I can't believe I called her fat. I swear seeing them made me crazy almost. Then they acted stupid in front of the kids. That really got me.

I sorta don't care. Really. I can't reconcile that person in my mind with the man I was married to. The fact he was carrying on at the kids? OMG. Trash. Trash. Trash. At least I did it via text where they couldn't see or hear.

So tomorrow is TG. I intend to go to his fathers with my kids. I had also planned to cook too. If he shows up over there, I'm just leaving.

If you could have seen his face. It was just shocking. Not at all like I have ever really seen it. He wasn't in the least bit attractive to me. In fact, pretty ugly. That he and she obviously are feeding off that. I dunno. I worry about her doing something violent or really being vindictive. She was screaming and carrying on too. Ugh. Now the kids are just I dunno. Subdued. Although, I think they are shocked and just hurt. So that was my day.

I still have a pretty good frame of mind actually. Although, I shouldn't have said any of that. Yes, I know I was rude and snarky. I also know he is being vindictive. He has periodically come over and taken more and more stuff. I really am starting to think he is into heavy drugs and selling our stuff off. It would explain his craziness too. Of course, maybe that is wishful thinking. Sad when being drugged out would be a better alternative to the person I just saw.