It was the first thing that seemed like the right thing to do, but honestly, I am just not sure. Themore I read and the more advice I get or read, I go around in more circles.
Detaching seems like a fabulous concept to me right now. I am working on it. It is hard work.
Portia, thanks for the link. Turns out i had read this early on and this has been one of my "goals" that changed how i was dealing with my sitch. But I am not naive, and I understand that my first priority was to protect my heart and my emotional stability. Thus the importance of detaching and going dim (limiting contact). While I am trying to build and nurture my friendship with my W I am constantly evaluating my emotional health and my detachment. That is important for all of us in this sitch. If the contact and or conversations are only tearing one down what is the point? Stay focused on yourself and become the better person.
I would rather feel pain then never feel at all... Separated 3/2012 T 34 yrs M 27 yrs
