Piecing - Round 1

[Sad_but_happy]

"I don't think that this approach is bad, but I don't think that it is the right approach for EVERY situation. For example, it simply was not possible in my situation at the beginning. I needed to change, for me, and I needed my W to have a period of time to see that was happening. But yes, eventually, I had to shift gears. Basic Plan A/Plan B stuff."


Couldn't agree more...



"I apologize SBH if I am not remembering correctly, but I don't remember you talking about your W in this way at all back when you were posting regularly. Of course, I was pretty wrapped up in my own situation at the time, and I was following multiple people at the time. It was also a while back, so my memory may just be fading."


I really never spoke of this Denver. Mostly because her illness drove me away. And it was my neglect of her that caused her to look elsewhere. I definitely accept blame too.



"It sounds to me like you actually became the WAS here SBH. Maybe had your W found DR and this board, and actually educated herself on the things that we have all educated ourselves on, she could have kept you from walking away. Who knows? Unfortunately, I think this is why so many marriages end in divorce. One or both spouses don't want to take the time, do the work, to educate themselves on what it actually takes to be married."


Great observation. Very true. All of it!!!