Back on this site help!!

[Sad_but_happy]

Hi LL,
My heart goes out to you. So much heartach for so many people for seemingly no reason.

Worse than that LL are all the countless hours you have spent in pain, crying, in sadness, and alone...

Think of all the things that could have been done. All the people you could have met. All the fun you could have had... And not just you . All of us on this board that have spent those countless hours in sadness... I'm sure it adds of to many lifetimes. What a shame that is all that wasted time.

I am known as a "hard line approach" person on this board. My Ex had an EA, and at the end of the day, I could not get past that betrayl. I don't say that claiming to be right. I say it because it was what worked for me. To save myself I needed a clean slate. And a person that I knew would be devoted to me and me alone.

It's time for you to be strong LL. Time to demand respect. Time to realize your self worth. Time to show your kids a strong person worthy of true love.

I have never told a person to leave their spouse. Not on this board and not in my real life. And I'm even hard pressed to say it to you now...

BUT...

This board and these books have less to do with saving marriages and more to do with saving ourselves.

SO...

My thought is you can't save yourself in the relationship you're in. You may never be yourself. May never be secure. May never be happy. May never be the woman you were intended to be. Is he worth that? Is anyone worth that?

I may be wrong... And if i am, than follow your heart. YOUR TRUE INNER VOICE. And do what's best.

And save yourself...

Peace and love to you LL.