AS and Accuray..again..thanks for the great advice that I have read over and over again and will continue to read. I find that it helps to go back and re read things...and even previous posts that you both have written to me have really helped me to see things a tad more clear! I appreciate not only you both, but everyone on here who take the time to read my story and respond!
Today is my 15th wedding anniversary. I started my day already with an appointment for the baby and he is growing and doing great! He is measuring 3 WEEKS ahead of schedule! Guess Im having another big baby:) Everything looked great and its sad to leave the office because my first reaction is to want to call H and tell him the news! That is what is supposed to happen when you are expecting a baby with your H!
After getting home, I received an email (since H does not have my new cell phone number) from H and this is what it said:
"Hey- Today's 15 for us. For what it's worth, I'm very sad at what happened to us. Hope you have a good day"
and he signed his name.
I haven't responded because I just dont know if I should, or how to respond. Also, Im not sure what he means by "for what its worth"?
Would not responding be cold? Would responding be letting him know I still care and am sad too? How can he have the audacity to say he is sad when he chose this???
advice???
M:36 H:36 D14, D11, Baby due in March M:15 T:18 Met OW: 3/12 H Moved out: 8/12 Legal Sep: 11/5/12
I think I'd respond. But just with something like:
Thanks. You too. Sweet.
This recognises that he's made the effort to acknowledge your special day, but keeps him in the category of 'friend/co-worker' - i.e. what you'd say to an acquaintance who wished you well.
To me it seems like a pretty big thing that he actually sent you the email. My stbx has given up acknowledging my bday or anniversaries. Reward the good stuff but don't pressure him.
Sweetbriar, I don't post of your thread often, but I'm familiar with what you're going through, and it must be so TOUGH. I can only imagine.
I hope you sent a quick one liner to say thanks for the message. My H has used those words too: "for what it's worth." Your H meant, "I know it's over but I still remember--and maybe hint I care."
Congrats on the baby developing so well. Something to be thankful for.
I'm so sorry your going through this. Being pregnant really must make it so much harder. ((( )))
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
I hope you are doing well today (((( )))) Congratulations on the wonderful news of your baby boy (I too had big babies...so I think I can empathize!)
How are you feeling today?
Thinking of you ((((( )))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Hi Sweetbriar. Thanks for posting on my thread. I decided to read all of yours from the beginning. You've had quite a busy few months. I admire your strength and what a great mom you're being to your two girls and your coming baby boy. You're getting good help here. I'll be thinking of you too, keep posting!
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
