Piecing - Round 1

[Denver_2010]

Denver, I've been around since the BITS days, and used to post to Bolt (wonder what happened to him) and actually, to SBH as well. I followed your sitch although I've been rather quiet. I tended to read a lot of sitches, analyze and digest in an effort to find parallel situations to mine and understand them.

I was being reactionary to what they (SBH and Starsky) said; I now realize your are strong and won't easily be swayed. However, I just was concerned because sometimes, piecing is the time when the former LBS suddenly just finds themselves in a position where all the past sins of the WAS comes back, making forgiveness a huge issue, or bringing back issues of mistrust and turning the whole thing into a tit-for-tat matter.And we have risen above that, I believe.

Thanks for understanding my concern....I know the tough love approach may work sometimes, in other sitches, I just didnt feel it would work for you.

It wouldn't work for mine, but all I could say at this point is that in my case, I did it my way, mindful of all that I have learned from many people. Starsky and SBH, I did learn a lot from you too, but not the tough love part....it did help me see into certain male perspectives.

For me, Cyrena, and 25 years mlc gave the most useful advice, and till now, I always think of what they have written.

I vaguely remember you Angel. There are so many monikers with 'Angel' in them though that I don't remember your sitch specifically. And it's been a while.

Bolt is doing well. Didn't save his M, but is in a new R and seems very happy. I still talk to him every couple of months or so.

Like I said in an above post, I think that it takes a combination of a 'hard line' and 'soft' approach. I got so much good advice during the hard days of my sitch. I credit vets on both sides of the debate, Starsky, J3B, Truegritter, 25MLC, Mach, Cat, 2stepboogie, and many others than I am failing to mention at the moment. Point is, there is great information to get from so many different perspectives, so many similar experiences. That's what makes this board so wonderful.

I'm happy to hear that you are in piecing Angel! It doesn't matter how you got there. What matters is that you are there and that both you and your H are committed to, and working at, your M. Not many of us from our group made it that far. But most are now finding happiness either way. THAT is what this board is all about!