How do you know that he's not already moved in w/the GF? You do realize that he could be telling you what he thinks you want to hear? I still believe he's using you for an emotional and ego fix. He's still got one toe in your pond and one toe in hers.
He is still answering his land line, getting his mail and his apartment would be too small for her and her kids, so I do not think he has moved yet. Having said that...you picked up my biggest fear right now - the move is coming. And although I can do nothing about it, that will be a very hard moment for me.
And you are right, he is absolutely emotionally attached to me. I am trying to control my emotional attachment to him. We've been through so much together (as I am sure everyone on this board has with their SO).
Thank you for your kindness. I am trying not to have expectations for the visit which is tough. The thought that he is using me makes me a bit ill. This was a person I would have trusted with my life. I have read enough from others in the trenches that we may never understand WHY.
I am envious of those who have realized that after a few months, they weren't sure that they would take their SO back. My GAL goal right now is to try to unstuck me from this ruminating. I thought I would be doing much better by now.
