So here's my story Part 3

[Denver_2010]

Hey Tori, Thanks for asking.
Overall the silence has been due to good news and being busy.
To update you all.
Saturday I went to my friends house, had a few drinks and watched college football. The funny thing about this is that I've been there about once a month. The first time, I was an absolute mess. The second time, still insecure, but better. This recent time, I was good. I was fine with where I was.

So on my drive back home Sunday morning, my phone goes off because of a FB notification. Friend request --> W!
I took my time in accepting. She asked me if I was going to accept when I was arrived home. She choose me. She literally said that. She defriended OM and his family. She also started to follow me on Pinterest. She clicked "follow" her so I could see what she was doing and what not. The past few days have been good. We have been polite. She has choosen to sleep in my / our bedroom again. She has initiated little and more than kisses. It has been wierd. A good weird. I have tried to remain somewhat detached / lean back. Follow her lead and what not. The other night, she accidentally texted me that OM sent her an email telling her to listen to some "try again" song; and then followed with another text about "how's done with that, and happy with where she is (w/ me)" The text was intended for her BFF. I did not make any comments, including when she let me know that it was an accident, "but at least you know where I am" with regards to the whole sich.
All in all, things have been progressing in the right direction.

The slight bad news, is last night, W, BFF, and SIL came over, hung out and we all had some wine. W and eventually went to bed. We woke up middle of the night, fooling around, and one thing did lead to another. Bad news it obviously was something way too fast; and it was unprotected. I know this. I am ashamed of myself. I am generally more responsible, but am beating myself up over this. I feel bad. I think she does too. It was obviously a mutual and consentual thing, but I think we each are fearful of going to fast and jumping back into the old routine.

Thoughts?

I think that it is a big step! Very good. I would not play it up too much either way. I would continue doing what you are doing and behaving the way that you are behaving. Continue to be confident with yourself and the path that you are traveling.

You did not indicate whether or not she brought it up the next morning and/or what her take on it is. Is she upset? Happy?

If you have a conversation about it, or if you feel the need to bring it up with her, I would basically communicate that "It was nice being close to you again." But not make a big deal out of it either way.

Oh... and I'm not sure that I believe that that text was not meant for you. My guess is that she doesn't want to feel like she is giving you control, but she also wants you to know where she stands with OM... so she 'accidentally' sent that to you. I could be wrong, but that is an awfully big text to accidentally send to you.