Something I've been working on is getting back into shape (we both let ourselves go, but she started losing a lot of weight and running during this, but before "I Love you, but I'm not in love with you" happened). Not only does this help me physically to keep up wiht the kids, but also I feel much better about myself confidence wise, ironically NOW my testosterone is up when I have less 'use' for it, my pants are 2 to 3 sizes smaller. I've stopped hitting this as hard as I did in the beginning (part of it in the beginning was getting out the rage about her affair), but I am maintaining pretty well. Getting through the holidays will be tough, but I am WAY better in the self control department and not nursing my hurt feelings with tasty food (it doesn't help that she's a really good cook).


I'm 33, she's 32.
S4 S2
Married 6 years together 8
EA started Oct 2011
ILYBINILWY February 2012
EA turned PA (for sure)March 2012