You are spot on. I have let him control everything so he doesn't get mad. I have filed for support alimony custody all that temp order until divorce. He makes a very decent living. I am looking for work and have dug myself out of this hole financially he left me in. With him controlling the bills and payments. When he left everything was behind and no one would work with me bc he had broken too many previous payment arrangements. We went without hot water most of the summer while I chipped away at the bill then got in my name only. Our power was out for almost 2 weeks due to him breaking arrangements and then they wanted all the budget billing up front. I finally got that handled. I have everything in my name only now. He took my car when he left so I went and bought this old beat up Honda civic for 300. So I have proven I can do it. It just [censored] so much. I know we all here know that it's not fair feeling.
He hasn't contacted me about seeing any of our other children. He has his favorite with him now. So should I just go as dark as possible ? He freaks when I ignore him. I know that's a control thing not a love thing.
I just want this to blow up in his face with this girl so I can tell him where to go. Don't we all we all feel that way sometimes? It can't be as good as he makes it out to be can it? Maybe it can ? But it's actually only been 3 months not the 4 I thought and he has lived with her about a month.
Please somebody 2x4 me!!!!!
lisa
Me:37 H:38 6 kids first bomb 8/05 (ow involved) piecing 7/06 second bomb 3/07 ow involved wash rinse repeat.... huge move to start over 2/11 more affairs H left for good 8/12
