Oh yea, I know where H is living. Its actually not far from my house and I avoid going by there because of fear of seeing OW car there. But I've told him I don't want DD around OW and no overnight guest while DD is there. I don't think it's appropriate for OW to spend the night with married Dad, DD is only 15. And I don't want DD uncomfortable being around OW. She knows enough. But since DD has yet to spend the night with H, is OW living there. Do I have a right to ask? Should I drive by just to see if her car is there? Do I have a right to check the place out if DD is going to be spending time there?
A) Welcome and B) I am sorry you are here . You have been through a lot in a short span of time.
As to DD and spending night, you already laid down the rules to H (no guests, no OW) so you do not have to revisit. Sure, you can check if she is living there, but that is not a boundary you made, right? You said no intro, no overnight guests...If she is living there, then DD is going to see her stuff, regardless of whether he respects your requests or not.
So, you have to ask yourself, what is it you want to do? You do have right to check place out because, yes, DD will be there as well. But that also implies you don't trust H, not to keep D safe and her needs met and also you don't trust him to keep word.
. You have been through a lot in a short span of time.