Hi Ruby thank you!! Where do you love? Are you close to this part of the world?
Tori it is ugly. I started 'defriending' her and her H when I started feeling her R with my H made me uncomfortable. I never really liked her H. Anyway- my H knew how I grew to feel about her but it just made him more adamant. When the rumours started he lied to my face. He swore on his mother's grave to other people that they were just friends. He was I believe not just in denial fog etc but also trying to justify that his R with her was ok because it wasn't physical then.
They did brreak up at one point. That's when I found out the Truth. I asked him not see her anymore. To seal up our marital walls until we could figure thIngs out. It didnt happen. He insisted on staying friends with her. He just couldn't see.
Of course I continued to pry and plead and cry and beg. I had no DB skills then. I did nothing to help myself.
We became more and more estranged until I pushed so hard. My mom was pushing him, I was pushing him... And that's when he told me he is done and will pursue PA with OW,
Thankfully I found this place shortly afterwards.
And here we are today.
I have been thinking about that timeline you mentioned. I have thought the exact same thing. Time will tell. I know that they have had arguments. I know H is not flying high like he used to. But I sit back and observe now. I get out of his way as much as I can.
I want my H back. But before that, I would just like to have a chance. But I know now I will be fine no matter what the outcome.
Thanks for checking in Tori (((( ))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home