Breakdown I finally read your entire sitch and we sound like very similar people with wives with similar characteristics. Good to watch how you've grown and been able to change from controlling to a person trying to save your family because that's what I'm also working on, as you know. The root cause for majority of my problems come from my trust issues which is where most my work is currently going.
What hobbies are you doing? I just bought Black Ops 2 which isn't a productive hobby by any means but it does relax me after kids go to bed when I just need to kill some time and don't want to read or think. I've also been hunting again and working out a lot.
Denver_2010 Plan A/ Plan B scenario makes sense to me. Besides my unhealthy moments of insecurity that made me do stupid things I'm usually a nice guy. Sadly all my wife seems to remember are the stupid things I've done which I understand. I've slowly started detaching but going full Plan B seems tough since we live in same house and my kids (7 & 4) don't know anything is up. It might take a full Plan B to get her back though but the thought of hurting kids now is holding me back. Not sure if it will be any easier after they know. How long did you end up doing Plan A until you switched? I'm going to try to read your sitch later today (last day before holiday so not doing much at work .
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