When SO called that night, as he said he would, I did not answer the phone. I chose not to in order not to start a fight. Avoidant? Maybe. But I am trying to keep in mind that we are spending the day together next week.
I called SO that evening and got VM. I left a message. He called back. The conversation flowed well but we did not really talk about personal things. He did say that he hadn't listened to my message yet and did I sing? I simply said "no" and the subject was dropped.
We hung up on good terms.
Frankly, this whole thing turns my stomache. On the surface now, we are getting along well but are not back to pre-BD levels of contact (not even close). And, although he did not mention GF at all (in fact, if everything he said was true, he did not even see or hear from her), I know she is there. I know that I am not supposed to give her headspace, but let's be real - she is the elephant in the room. Especially because I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop and for him to tell me that he is moving in with her.
But, I am trying not to be a total pessimist. We do have a day together and I am going to make the most of it. Where things go after that, IDK. Once upon a time I may have had expectations that he would want to work things out, but I do not have that vibe at all now.
From BD to now, there has been actual progress in our relationship. However, it may be that we will be in a bit of a "holding pattern" which DR says in inevitable givent the MLC. But, I guess I will reassess after the visit.
Despite the impending visit, the truth is that I do not hold out much hope for us - the distance is a huge problem where once it did not matter (or at least it didn't seem to matter all that much.)
