Sorry I do not get to post very often. The reference I referred to wasn't a "technique" per se, but came from a letter written by a DBer. Here is the link: DB - While Spouse Decides
I hoped that worked.
It was the first thing that seemed like the right thing to do, but honestly, I am just not sure. Themore I read and the more advice I get or read, I go around in more circles.
Detaching seems like a fabulous concept to me right now. I am working on it. It is hard work.
