I think we can all relate to your story. At the 2 year mark - I was not as far along as you - we all work through this at different rates. At the 11 year mark - I can honestly say I have not truly met total forgiveness but I reached acceptance a long time ago.
I believe you are handling things well and have a great understanding of the process. It's good when you get off the roller coaster but the emotional stuff does linger for a long time - it comes and goes in waves. Just when you think you're back on solid ground - something hits you (like running into them with the OP or something someone tells you) and it's like a tidal wave - you get knocked down again. But that becomes fewer and further between and you become much stronger in the process.
I think it might be harder for some of us who started the relationship when we were so young (I was only 15). We did lose our "growing up" time and I, too, had to do things for the first time when I was in my 40s (like dating someone new). But maybe that's not such a bad thing. Scary at first - but it is fun to try new things you would never have done if you had stayed in the marriage.
Once the dust settles and you see what you're left with - you begin picking up the pieces and find out amazing things about yourself. You can find new activities, go to new destinations, meet new people. Learn that there is more than one way to enjoy life.
Good luck with your new life. I think you're doing a great job!
