He's Just Not That Into You

[mamabird]

We didn't continue our conversation after MC tonight. Both too tired and I think we realize we've come to a place where we are both stuck. He's got his major issues about things I've done in the past, and I don't really know how to address that with him. We just go around and around in a circle. I think MC is a good step in getting unstuck, but our MC is so passive.

So I really tried again to encourage H to read "After the Affair." He said he hasn't read any books in a while, he just hasn't felt like reading. I told him it might give him a little bit of a different perspective on the situation - an unbiased, impersonal perspective. I told him that maybe it would help move this conversation along a more productive path.

It's interesting, because last week, he said his major issue was that he didn't feel understood and felt that I was too controlling. This week, he says his major issue is the betrayal. I'm sure it's all pretty major for him. I just wish he'd pick up a book so he could hear that all of these feelings he's having are within normal bounds and that most marriages go through serious dips. I feel like his expectations in that regard are very unrealistic.