I'm sorry you are in pain. Having your world turned upside down sukks and there is no easy way through it - you just wake up and deal with it as best you can.
I hope you will continue to vent here.. we have all been there. Similar words have been spoken 100's of times on this board. If you are looking for people who understand.. we are them.
It seems that your letter only caused pressure.. that's what Sandi's rules are so important. At this stage of the game it only matters what is perceived.. intentions are moot.
She has asked you for space and you have yet to give it to her.. so she is making it happen. Support her in this decision. Do NOT contact her on Thanksgiving.
Also - you seem to be spiraling a little bit. I like to call it "The Hamster wheel" Asking yourself the why's and the how's. Trying to make sense of something that you just can't write now.
It will get you no where.
Do me a favor.. find a way to get calm. Some people work out. Some people have those 5 friends they can call at any time to vent.
But figure a way to calm your emotions. Allow time for the water to clear. It's only then you can make decisions to move forward in ways to DB your marriage.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
