How many licks does it take...?

[2thepoint]

OK, help me out here. Why no R conversation? If not now, when?

There is a reason behind my need to have this conversation. She is hell bent on selling the house. Ok, fine. But then she makes comments like, "Should we have these chairs recovered?" or "I think I'm going to move back into the master bedroom. The guest bedroom is too small and isn't helping my depression." or "What do you think of this house?" or "I'm getting my breast reduction surgery in December and need a ride home from the hospital."

Her 50th birthday was earlier this month. I was out of town at the time, but the week prior I was in town and gave her a small gift. The gift was a nice handmade piece of pottery from Maine filled with sea glass and small sea shells that I had collected. I wrote her a nice note that said something like "People are a lot like sea glass. We start out with a lot of jagged edges but over time we soften and transform into something beautiful."

It was just a nice gesture for my W on what was a significant milestone birthday. Her reaction blew me away! She came up to me sobbing, hugged me and thanked me for the gift. I did not give her the gift expecting any kind of a reaction. I simply wanted her to know that I remembered this important day.

So, anyway here I am more than a year separated from my W and family. I am tired. I have seen a new side of life that I didn't realize I was missing. I don't want to be played the fool and allow my W to continue her cake eating ways. She is self described "severely depressed." I want my kids to live in a clean and healthy home.

So why no R conversation? I'd at least know once and for all what direction to take my life.