I have a question for anyone who might have some more insight into this than I do: I read in DR that being in a holding pattern in your M is ok. But for how long?
I'm happy right now for the most part in the way things are going. H is still sleeping on couch, not wearing his ring and there's no intimacy, hand-holding etc right now. However, we're spending time together most days, he took me out to lunch today, and we're having a nice time together. I think he may still be a little down or depressed, or MLCish, or something. I don't know what it is, because we haven't spoken about it. He's quiet a lot. I don't know if it's reflection, depression, there's an OW, he's just thinking - he hates his life - I don't know! And I'm not asking...I just feel like the holding pattern is odd. I'm not used to it, and I can't label it, and I guess I want to. In the meantime, I'm taking care of myself very well, not focusing on him too much, haven't checked his phone or anything in 2 days....I just don't understand, is all.
So do you just let it be? When you're curious, do you not ask about it? How long do you wait? Also, does the sex and intimacy come back?
Maybe there are no answers right now. I just don't want to end up in a platonic friend zone or something. He used to be really attracted to me not just a month or so ago! Sorry if it seems like I'm complaining, I'm really not. I just don't get how things could be so calm at home right now, he even asked me to go out to see his friend perform tomorrow night - yet we're not sharing a bed or saying ILY. Is this normal sometimes in these situations?
