If your W is not interested in resolving issues between you, then regular MC probably would not help right now.
I want to ask you a question about kissing her. You said you initiate it, but does she "really" kiss you back? A lot can be measured by how she responds to your kisses. The fact she isn't interested in you touching her (except to rub her feet) is not a good sign....even if she had not met OM.
I understand you wanting assurance that your W is not still involved with OM, but the signs all point that she is. Asking her over & over is not good. It won't change anything, other than make her lie more.
The fact that she's going out dranking without her H....and you are even getting her hotel rooms so she doesn't have to go home, sure makes it easy for her to cheat. I realize if she wants to cheat....she will, but somehow you paying for the hotel room just seems wrong to me. However, a WAW involved in an A would do exactly that....take advantage.
There's nothing wrong with having a social life, but if she was truly trying to get her M where it needs to be....and if she was truly trying to get over her A.....she would not need to be going out without her H.......at least not the way you have described her "type" of socializing and the fact she isn't interested in you touching her.
A lot of women who are having an A likes to have the H as a good friend, and OM as her romantic interest. You don't have to believe this just b/c I've said it. But at some point, I think you will find out that she's not over him. I hope you will consider using the LRT.
I hope you will post more often and reach out to other people on their threads. It will get more responses to your stitch.
BTW, you spoke about feeling lost without your W's affection. Are you getting out and getting your own life or do you stay home while she's out?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
