Why do you think it's God's plan for you? Just b/c she said that's what she waeents?
Because if I am accepting that God has a plan for me, then I am accepting that I have no control over the outcome of events in my life. I have done and AM doing everything I can to save my M and I can at least be at peace with that.
I haven't read your entire sitch - but this stuck out to me so I thought I would comment on it.
Whist I completely agree with that God does indeed have a plan for us.. I don't believe for one second he expects us to throw our hands up and say.. "well it's out of MY hands and in His". He expects us to participate. It's a relationship WITH him. It's not that one-sided.
I also do believe that he loves us SO much - he allows us to make mistakes. He gives us that freedom.. so maybe he doesn't really want you to get a D, but he loves your w so much - he will let her make a mistake. Because he has a plan in store for her too.
You are limiting yourself with the mind-thinking above. I don't think God's plan for you is to get divorced.. I think that is really small way of looking at something HUGE... which is understandable. We're not him, so we cannot possible fathom what he does have planned for us.
However.. What IF you believed that God's ONLY plan for you.. was to love you...unconditionally... and in seeing his love for you... you would be compelled to love others in the exact same way.
Think how that perspective would change EVERYTHING that you do. It would change your heart...
.. it would surely change the interactions you had with your w. (And just to be clear.. I don't mean bending to her every need).
This hardship is not one that is completely out of your hands.. in fact.. you have so much IN your hands.. you just need to open your eyes to see it.
So will you continue to throw your hands in the air?? or will you accept the hardship infront of you as God's way to help you become the son he always meant for you to be.
Your choice..
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
