"Now we have completely changed .... i dont ask for him tospeak my LL, and neither does he expect me to speak his LL, but we recognize each others LL and acknowledge that its our way of showing love to each other. I am physical, he loves to serve....and I appreciate his way, he appreciates mine."


THIS makes no sense Angel. You are supposed to show love the way your partner needs it. Otherwise they don't feel loved. That is the very essence of a LL.

What you are doing paving the way for loneliness. It's the reason you drifted away in the first place. You showed him love based on your LL. He showed you love based on his LL.


If this is what you are saying, you will be back here in less then 5 years.

M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14
EA - July 2010
NC w/EA - Nov 2010
Piecing - Jan 2011
I ask for div - Jan 2012
Div papers filed - Mar 2012
I move out - July 2012
Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012