Piecing - Round 1

[angel61]

SBH,I dont get that. Hard line aproach and respect? They dont mix.

If she didn't realize, then maybe you did not make it knows. As they said, nothing wrong in feelings.

But one things is that: nobody has an obligation to make someone else happy. That is too much.

If my H would say that the only way he would be happy is if I made him so, I would lose some of my respect for him. Thats too much of a burden for me. If being myself made him sad, then I cant live with that.

Actually thats what happened to us before. He had tried to make me happy in his way, but I never saw it, and demanded something different. He felt he could never make me happy, and he withdrew, and later got into an EA.

Now we have completely changed .... i dont ask for him tospeak my LL, and neither does he expect me to speak his LL, but we recognize each others LL and acknowledge that its our way of showing love to each other. I am physical, he loves to serve....and I appreciate his way, he appreciates mine.

And regarding the EA....I just told him that as far as I was concerned, he could end it anyway he wanted, as long as it does end. Then I let go...almost anyways....I still do get anzious every now and then, I am human after all, but am able to consciously get over it.


SBH, I remember you and your exs W were reading the 5 LL's before ....did that not make an impact on you?