We all have advice to offer. DB'ing is like parenting. There is no book... Actually, there is... Lol
But the essence of DB is do whats best for your sitch and for your health, happiness and wellbeing.
My approach worked for me. Within a few weeks actually. I detached almost right away. Gave boundaries (not ultimatums). And she came back. I mean let's be honest... How could she not? Lol.
The problem was that she didn't realize what I needed in the moment. At any moment really. She didn't know the depths of my sadness. And over time, that sadness turned to resentment. And so it was doomed to fail.
My hard line approach speaks to respect. Not anger or hurt or sadness. Respect!!!
It's not a matter of no one will cheating on me. We all know we have no control over that.
It's a matter of not allowing myself to be disrespected by allowing someone to cheat on me... Ever...
Hey Starsky... I live in Illinois too... Moved here 6 years ago from Boston.
Peace all...
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
