Michelle, Yes, the account is in my name - he just put all of my accounts online and created usernames and passwords for them and didn't tell me.
I have rectified this now. Time-consuming (gotta love doing the phone banking thing) but has to be done.
Yes, you're right, too - at the moment he is not someone I want to be around. I miss him less and less. The idea of him as the husband i thought he was, and the idea of our happy family still haunts me... but that is not him now. So no point wanting him around. He just causes grief.
And the idea of one hour at a time really helped me. I've been thinking in terms of one day at a time, but that sometimes seems interminable. One hour might be do-able.
