Piecing - Round 1

[Denver_2010]

Well Denver,
I have to conceed. In the best sense.

It does sound like your W is and has made positive steps toward healing and forgivness.

I wear my emotions on my sleve when it comes to adultry because the pain can cut so deep. I always said that I could never get past an affair. And when tested, I was right. At least for me. That said I know my W never made me feel 100% secure again. Had she, maybe my result would have been different too. Who knows really?

I'm passionate about this because I do care.

I will post my journey from my ex's ea to my final divorce soon. I just got my final divorce decree in the mail today.

Now the hard part for my W. I've removed her from all medical, dental and vision. She's having to work full time for the first time in her life. Long hours. Her car is dying and she's not able to do the vacations and trips she once enjoyed.

For those that cheat I urge you to consider the full consequences of your actions. The fun lasts only as long as the music plays. And as you can see, the music has stopped for my ex. And the "fun" with it!!!

I take no satisfaction in this. Only sadness for her. And in some respects... Myself!

I'm sorry to hear about your D SBH, but it does sound like you are doing relatively well.

I do agree with you that being made to feel secure again is a necessity. It also something that doesn't just stop... it has to be ongoing. But I think that is true of all relationships too, regardless of whether or not there has been infidelity.

I've said this before, had my W's choices come under different circumstances, ie, had we been doing well and we been happy when all hell broke loose, my outcome probably would have been different too. The circumstances of my R with my w at the time, our history together, and each of our personal histories, all allowed me to find some understanding of what happened. My work here allowed me to find the ability to forgive.

I also agree with your statement to the potential consequences of engaging in infidelity. As someone who had never really though much about it, this experience has taught me to think twice about those temptations. It has also taught me the pain that all of this can cause. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy... well maybe one! LOL

I look forward to reading your story SBH.