Originally Posted By: LITB
Denver,

There are always some interesting topics covered in your threads.

I wanted to share this. We were watching October Baby over the weekend. I found this line to be very profound, "Hate the crime, not the criminal." To me, that speaks of forgiveness.

Anyhow, I want to touch on forgiveness and focus. I believe they go hand in hand to some degree.

I'm sure you have heard the story about feeding the positive and negative dog:

We all have two dogs inside of us. One dog is positive, happy, optimistic, and hopeful. The other dog is negative, mad, sad, pessimistic, and fearful. These two dogs often fight inside us, but guess who wins the fight? The one you feed the most.

Which reminds me, I really need to get my hands on this book(The Positive Dog: A Story About the Power of Positivity).

There isn't a doubt in my mind, when we put our focus on our spouses past offenses, it holds us back from completely letting go and experiencing true forgiveness.

It's a long process. Perhaps a never ending process and I am sure we all go through the steps at different paces.

I digress. Back to your regularly scheduled program.


Absolutely agree with ^^^ LITB!


M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce