Agree with Busting. Am trying to be NC about all and just kids and finances. Anytime I write about R or text he goes NC, so I have learned my lesson there!
I understand the dichotomy of going out and also thinking "ha." If there is a person on this board who did not have that thought, especially at the beginning of the process, I will eat my boots.
The trick is, one day, you will do activity and H will not even enter into the equation. But OP is right (wendy? Busting? Can't remember lol). Do not do it solely with the "look at me" in mind, simply because from a reinforcement point of view, it is unsustainable.
You are sounding good Melissa! Really good. I like it . You'll figure Thanksgiving out and you will be okay. I too have greatest anxiety when scheduled meetings etc. with H and he hasn't ever done anything to increase anxiety ( well except leave but hey :p), so you are not alone in the butterfly fest!
. You'll figure Thanksgiving out and you will be okay. I too have greatest anxiety when scheduled meetings etc. with H and he hasn't ever done anything to increase anxiety ( well except leave but hey :p), so you are not alone in the butterfly fest!