Tori and Busting- Thanks for stopping in. I just do not even discuss OW or anything. No point. I do not contact about anything any more. If he wants contact he knows how.
Tori- I did go see a L. Basically things are at a standstill. I really cannot afford the retainer right now. As far as child support basically the kids get SS from him. So, based on his income the child support would be less than their social security. In a nutshell, it is better to leave it as is. I am considered their payee though so it has always come to me- I just diverted the direct deposit from his account to mine. Easy Peasy!
He knows all of this. We went through and went over everything. As I said, he just now realized that he has almost nothing left after paying his bills. Maybe they can live on love. I dunno. As for me, I prefer creature comforts so I got a temp job through Christmas then will go back to school mid Jan and should finish by March 8th. All things considered, I feel like the $ is under control.
He has been giving me a wide birth and is "scared" of me and what I will do. Just more BS planted by OW to control. I just let it go. No point in arguing.
I have tried very hard to be nice and have basically accomplished that. I need to not ask any questions. That is my next thing to work on. NO QUESTIONS UNLESS IT RELATES to the kids!
Also, yes I want a new M but at the same time I am doing this for me. I actually feel better and more in control than I have in a long time. Also, it can get tedious trying to please someone else all the time.
