I am going to give this a little time. I guess I am just doing a lot better, have my anxiety under control, work is a ton less stressful. I just am eager to share that with my wife. My wife doesn't seem to want that. So I am getting in a place where I am eager to share that with someone. I feel like I can actually get out an enjoy life, something that I was afraid to do for a long while there!
Me - 32 Wife - 31 No kids Married - 3 Together - 6 "I need space" - July 2012 Bomb/Presence of OM - August 2012 Separation - September 2012
I am feeling very pressured right now. I did talk to a lawyer a while ago just to protect myself and figure out what I needed to get together in the case my W filed. Now he is saying that he needs paperwork filled out by Monday, because he is going to be out the rest of the year! Couple that with my W saying that she wants to move this D forward and I feel like things are spinning out of control all over again. I mean I am in a very good place compared to where I was before. I am praying for guidance, I really hope God gives me the answers that I am looking for on what to do.
Me - 32 Wife - 31 No kids Married - 3 Together - 6 "I need space" - July 2012 Bomb/Presence of OM - August 2012 Separation - September 2012
Does she know that your L is going to be gone? If not, then tell her later that you tried to contact your L and got a message saying that he was going to be out the rest of the year. So you'll take care of things when he gets back.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Does she know that your L is going to be gone? If not, then tell her later that you tried to contact your L and got a message saying that he was going to be out the rest of the year. So you'll take care of things when he gets back.
YUP! ^^^
Don't let your W or your L pressure you into doing anything that you are not ready to do.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Why do you think it's God's plan for you? Just b/c she said that's what she waeents?
Because if I am accepting that God has a plan for me, then I am accepting that I have no control over the outcome of events in my life. I have done and AM doing everything I can to save my M and I can at least be at peace with that.
Me - 32 Wife - 31 No kids Married - 3 Together - 6 "I need space" - July 2012 Bomb/Presence of OM - August 2012 Separation - September 2012
Don't let your W or your L pressure you into doing anything that you are not ready to do.
But I guess I don't understand what this does besides delay the inevitable.
Maybe. Maybe not. The point is that you are not at the mercy of her wishes. You can choose to do what is right for YOU. If you want to go along with the D, then you can decide to do that. If you don't, then don't go along with it. Let her do the heavy lifting.
You are being rushed into a very big thing. Allow yourself some time to reflect on how you want to move forward.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Why do you think it's God's plan for you? Just b/c she said that's what she wants?
I am in the same boat. It is hard not to accept that it is God's plan when divorce papers are filed (my case), and we are just waiting for a court opening.
BD: 8/20/2012 W Files: 8/23/2012 S: 8/25/2012 (I moved out) D Final: 3/5/2013
