Is the affair like an addiction? My family member said she saw something on TV about it...and Im wondering if my H IS addicted to this OW?
If you don't mind it would be helpful to many of us if you could add a "signature" below your posts with your sitch to remind us of how long this has been going on. How long has H been with OW? He may be codependent which is sort of an addiction. Similar issues.
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The only thing is, the kids give him insight on what is going on with us...how will be ever miss us when he has them to rely on for information?
What he will hopefully some day begin to miss is the time he spent with you. Meaningful conversations, doing things together, doing things with the kids, reminiscing about things you've done together. Raw information is not going to have any impact on whether he misses you or not. What he'll (hopefully) miss is the emotional connection.
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Lastly, I do not plan on acknowledging my anniversary tomorrow and know that he will not. This will hurt me deeply, as I assume after dinner with my kids tomorrow he will spend it with OW...our anniversary and he will be with her. This makes me sick. I just want to make sure that NOT saying anything is the right thing to do?
In your sitch it sounds like it's the right thing to do. In my sitch I asked my W if she wanted to ignore it or what. She said she was confused about what to do, so I suggested dinner and she agreed. And we did have a very nice dinner together. But each sitch is unique.
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I figure this contact was acceptable.
Absolutely. Anything kid-related or financially related should for sure be discussed.
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I just want him to wake up
And maybe he will. But you don't know when, and you can't wait around for it to happen. It's like watching grass grow. Stand there and watch it and you see nothing happen. Go away for a while and come back and you see the difference. Work on yourself and leave him to his sitch.
