when do I start piecing ?

[MrBond]

"I see your view there is nothing wrong with helping someone get on their feet but if you are just giving them money and telling them to quit there job and become a full time artist....hard to see that as support"

Again, you have to stop seeing things from your POV. What you just posted above is the exact support that a parent gives their child. Besides it's not your money to give and not your decision. They have the right to do what they want as much as you do.

It's like the technique of validation. You understand that while you don't agree with what their doing, you understand that they are doing what they feel is right.

Two different things.

Plus, it seems like your ILs are nice enough people to invite you over. It's great that you have this support. Would you rather they cut you off? I have a feeling that if they did, you'd complain about them also. Consider it a blessing.