Piecing - Round 1

[Sad_but_happy]

Hi angel,
I respectfully disagree. The cheating spouse has the obligation to make sure that the cheated on spouse feel secure. That's not control. That's love. That's respect. That's empathy.

And at this stage open communication is key. Denver felt insecure. He had a right to. He should not surpress his feelings.

Now trust me, I know my MO is a hard line approach. Its that way because they wronged us and they nned to make it right. In whatever way necessary. Now don't think I'm one sided here. Denver did wrong by emotionally leaving and he has to make it right in any way necessary to meet her needs.

And btw, I 100% believe in db'ing. It worked for me. I chose to leave cause I didn't want to feel insecure for the next 10 years. I needed a clean slate. My ex regrets what she did every day. And she would be married to me still if I said the word. I'm not bragging. I'm acknowledging that the system works.

Yes, we all will have different approaches. I saved myself by leaving. Others will save themselves by staying. None more right than any other. This angel, we agree on.