Yes, sort of. I have no idea what he is trying to do. I have spent so much time trying to analyze and figure him out. I am ready to just stop. You know? Just live it as it is and go on about my business.
Not usually self limiting. I have had the problem off and on
Me too, I have been soo self limiting since this happened, 1.5yrs now.
Soo much time trying to analyze! It is so freeing those times in the day I realize I haven't been thinking of him. It gets better and better everyday I we let them go, get them out of our minds.
Try to just stop...maybe a game you can play with yourself is to have a ready thought to switch to when you find yourself mulling over his doings. I change it up, these days I start thinking about new recipes, or changing up the house with a new rug or painting.
I know it's trivial but it something to put your mind and focus back onto yourself.
You sound like you on the right track...maybe do something completely different on TG and go to a family movie (good holiday one coming out tom.) I'm going to try to get a neighborhood evening football game going out in front...anything to be with people who are not going to bring me down.
I'm thankful for the sharing and understanding people show on this site as it has literally saved me from destroying myself. Have a good one!
The past can't be ahead of you in the future. You don't have to figure it all out, just pick a direction. What's next...I don't know but I can't wait!
