We got into a fight in the car as we were going to the store yesterday. I turned around and told her she could go alone.
Do you have these anger issues with others too or is it just with her?
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So I called GF and brought this up. We get into it again and she's starting with "we were having a good time"
One of the pillars of DB'ing is not to ever initiate R talks. You're supposed to act "as if" everything is fine. Show her nothing but PMA. Y'all were getting along great, then you bring up the R talks and it all falls apart. That pattern keeps repeating over and over again. You're applying too much pressure to her.
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I told her that I need direction, that her ambiguity is causing my erratic behavior.
And your pressure is causing her ambiguity. You don't seem to understand that the problem isn't HER, it's YOU!!
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With me getting a little physical intimacy I'm going to be calmer with her and be the guy she's looking for.
And pushing her into something she doesn't want is... (wait for it)... PRESSURE! You can't force her into intimacy, you have to detach, give her space and wait for HER to decide she's ready.
