Being responsible parents? hmmmm....well this was kind of a hangup for us as my W does not want to work a full time job...I need her to so I can build a retirement of which I don't have very much...she does not have that urgency because her parents put money in a special retirement roth of which my name is not on....It is hard for her to see my insecurity towards this when I tell her I need to save for retirement..
There is some disconnect-- here yes I do see the parents POV but there is also something lacking....our d(11) is failing in school and I am freaking out and trying to get a game plan to turn this ship around...my W response was well if she does not work harder she will just have to take 5th grade over and she will learn her lesson! I see your view there is nothing wrong with helping someone get on their feet but if you are just giving them money and telling them to quit there job and become a full time artist....hard to see that as support....a hand up not a hand out you know all the cliche's
